The Complaining Trap: Why Your Brain Gets Addicted to Saying "Everything Is Bad"
These simple hacks will help you get out of the vicious circle of negative thoughts.
We’re living in a world full of worrying news that keeps coming in every day, so no wonder many of us are looking for some company to share their worries with.
Even though psychologists admit that releasing those negative thoughts can be helpful for our emotional state, sometimes complaining can go way too far, with other people becoming sick and tired of those that can’t stop talking about bad things 24/7.
However, the situation can be improved at any time, and all you need is to follow several simple steps.
Why Are We Used to Complaining?
According to psychologists, there can be several reasons why people get addictive to sharing bad news and talking about them all the time.
The most frequent reason for doing so is that person’s attempt to get some support during a difficult time and be reassured that someone has sympathy for them.
Another possible scenario is that sharing negative thoughts with others 24/7 has always been a norm in this person’s family, with complaining becoming some sort of a habit or a part of their common language.
Apart from that, people can complain just to try to let it all out and thus start feeling better or rather to use it as a means to subtly encourage someone else to do a certain thing.
How to Stop Complaining 24/7?
If you’ve noticed you keep torturing yourself (and others) with constant negative thoughts and talks, it’s probably time for you to use some techniques that will likely improve the situation.
First, try asking yourself what exactly you’re trying to get by talking about negative stuff and whether you can solve the problem yourself without approaching others.
Then, make some sort of list of topics you usually complain about, thus analyzing which parts of your life need more thorough attention and improvement.
Another possible solution is to try substituting a complaint with a simple statement: for instance, instead of complaining about being tired you can just say you’re tired and need some rest.
Finally, start including good news in your talks with friends and relatives to make it all more stabilized.
