It’s Not About You: A Psychologist Reveals the Real Reason People Criticize Your Looks
Understanding of the real reasons why this happens will help you keep your self-esteem on the right level.
We’re living in the world run by social media, so it’s not really surprising to see so many people being obsessed with how they look in others’ eyes. At some point, the whole thing started involving pretty much everyone who is now thoroughly analyzed by their physical look.
However, behind every nasty remark about someone else’s appearance there’s a bunch of reasons that most likely linked to the bully’s own insecurities. If you keep in mind everything described below, you’ll stop worrying about others’ opinions about your look forever.
Why Do People Criticize Others’ Look?
The most important thing to remember here is that, in almost every case, the reason isn’t really your look but the other person’s low self-esteem or attempt to look better compared to you. According to psychologists, this can be considered some kind of protection that will help battle inner insecurities.
Also, judging someone by their look can mean mere jealousy, since there are quite many people out there who aren’t really pleased with the way they look or live. By finding flaws in someone else’s appearance, they reassure themselves that it’s not only them who aren’t perfect.
Lastly, some people just lack empathy and sense of propriety, which allows them to say whatever they want without filtering their words.
What to Do If You’re Criticized?
As many experts have already admitted, the best way to react to someone’s criticism is to not take it seriously. In most cases, these remarks are nothing more than the projection of another person’s own insecurities which have nothing to do with you whatsoever and don’t define your personality.
Also, decide how exactly you will react to different kinds of criticism: if it’s just a small nasty remark, laugh it off; however, if you feel like you’ve been insulted, make sure you let this person know you won’t allow them to treat you this way. In case the bully keeps nagging at you, just ignore them.