The Silent Signals: A Psychologist Shares 4 Simple Tricks to Uncover Someone’s True Character Fast

We tend to believe that months or even years should pass before we get to know someone just as well as we know ourselves, even though you might find out you didn’t know that person much even after years spent together.

However, you don’t have to wait for months before clearly understanding whether you want this particular person to stay in your life, since there are several ways to learn a lot about someone else during the first several meetings. In fact, you won’t even have to do much to use these hacks — just be extremely attentive.

Notice All the Subtlest Details

Even if someone you’re talking to hasn’t yet told you enough about themselves, you can still learn a lot from their daily habits and way of acting. Sometimes this even helps predict their reaction to a particular situation in the future.

Pay Attention to How This Person Communicates

If you happen to have common friends you two spend time with, it’s a great news, since you’ll clearly see whether that person has a specific way of talking to you or it’s their general manner of communication.

Talk About Your Colleagues or Common Friends

Though many might consider it gossiping, it’s actually one of the most helpful ways to see how that person treats people you know too. Eventually, things they’ll say will define the type of their character.

Define the Other Person’s Boundaries

While most people tend to pay attention to good merits that their new friend has, few will likely try to see the line that divides the good and the bad, thus understanding what kind of situation can potentially show that person’s real character. Make sure you notice both positive and negative aspects of your interlocutor’s behavior.