Why Hobbits Marry After 40 — It’s Not About Mommy’s Care, But Tolkien’s One Rule
They came of age at 33, but that didn’t mean it was time to walk down the aisle. Hobbits lived by a completely different rhythm — and that explains a lot.
While heroes of other fantasy stories were charging into battle and falling in love before turning 20, hobbits seemed to be baking pies and taking their time. In Tolkien’s Middle-earth, this had a deep philosophical meaning.
Late Adulthood — Late Marriages
Hobbits came of age not at 18, but at 33. Until then, they were considered teenagers — not metaphorically, but literally. So getting married at 20 would have been odd for them: culturally too early, and legally almost impossible.
Long Engagements and Thoughtful Choices
Even after becoming engaged — no rushing. Waiting two to three years was considered normal: it was not only about preparing for the wedding, but also about becoming fully confident in the decision.
This approach led to marriages not because 'the clock is ticking', but out of respect and love tested by time.
Love — One and for Life
Tolkien emphasized: hobbits almost never divorce, and after the death of a spouse, they often remained alone for the rest of their lives. Hobbits believe that true love doesn’t happen twice.
That’s why they approached the choice of a life partner with the utmost seriousness.And to choose right — you need time. Sometimes up to forty years.
